XL vs XS

I can’t help but to listen to one unhealthy conversation last two days. They were looking at the photo with one big size guy in it and these are the part of their says :
“He is the first thing I noticed when I see this photo”
“Wow! That is a very huge tummy!”
“Oh, pity him. I heard he is easily worn out just by walking around the office…”
“Am going to tell his wife that her husband needs to put off some weight..”

I met a lot of sensitive BIG SIZE people. And I met a lot of inconsiderate SKINNY people. These inconsiderate people always making fun of the big sizes because they feel their size is ideal and better. They can’t help laughing at the big sizes, saying they should put off some weight, they should control their meal intake, big people smells bad, they should exercise more, bla bla bla (and the list goes on). Do you think it is easy for them? I have many big size friends and I am sure they didn’t ask for that. Does genetic factor brings any mean to you?? I am not writing here to comment on their efforts or to support their existing lifestyle. I am writing to tell people out there, STOP BEING MEAN. Period.

office

I will lose one of my best staff. Someone advised her to transfer to other unit (I know who you are). I can feel she will go for that. I want to do that long time ago but I decided to stay because I love them so much. We made a very good team regardless the agonizing moments we have to face everyday.

I gave her an OK mark for her annual appraisal. She is good in her work but lack in other field. Balance in all fields will guarantee a high mark. That’s the best I can do and I will not just simply upgrade out of sympathy. She should fight for herself more and she should improve in many ways. I can’t always be there to fight for everybody.

A person sees us differently. We might think we’ve done a good job, but for them, we didn’t meet the expectation. I realize that when I received my own mark. Thought I had done so much, but somehow, no one sees it. I really fight for it and I got a better mark afterwards.

But, really, sometimes we just have to make do.

packaging

I am glad Ribena had shifted their heavy and thick glass bottle to plastic bottle. SUNQUICK, you are next!! The curve is no longer attractive. Rebranding exercise is a good thing to consider. Add more flavours.

Chicken, fish and meat at the market should be cut, clean and packed to save meal preparation time and to reduce our domestic organic waste. I’d trained my 2-years old son to plant a tree and soon, I will teach him about composting. Everybody should do composting out of their organic waste. Ask yourself this question everyday : What is my contribution to the environment today?

Authorities, please ban plastic bags in Malaysia. Thank you.

All food/snacks should use re-sealable packaging to increase its storage life. No more tying with rubber band or use staplers. That cloth pegs-like thing to seal the food package is not practical. Air still goes in. So does ants.

Backstabbing 101

So far so good.
Two days in this new year, I only ACCIDENTALLY talk bad things about 2 person. Phew. What an achievement!

This morning was quite hard. I don’t like being too hard on my staff but some of them fell into underachiever category due to my lack of firmness. I had to fill up appraisal forms for each one of them and I have to call them one by one and justify why I gave such mark. It was easy for younger staffs but hard for the opposite. I need to be more firm from this point forward.

Judging people is not the field I am good at although I did that unconsciously several times per day. Everybody does that. But putting numbers on others’ discipline level, competencies or proactiveness and those numbers will have a big impact in their future… well, that is the complicated judging task I’m talking about. What if I give a wrong number? What if she actually deserves bigger number?

Why can’t we use merit system for this purpose?

resolution

i hate making new resolutions every new year. why wait for specific time to do changes?
but, this time around, for this new year, i will try to embrace the true meaning of these overrated phrases :

what you give, you get back.
what goes around, comes around.

meaning, what i give to you, i want the same from you.
i.e. if i bought your child a present, please do the same for my child OR if i treat you a lunch, please treat me lunch next time. lol.

Nah. I want to be backstabbing-free so no one will talk behind my back. I try not to sweat over small stuff. I will ask people around me not to backstab anyone because backstabbing involves chain reaction.

That includes YOU.

enough

Wasn’t in my best mood today.

I had enough of :

The voice RTM’s international news anchor. He was there since.. what? 80s??
And another TV guy from TV3’s mystical series.

Japanese Soba. Cakes.

Bragger. Liar. Who is actually an idiot.
I dedicate this to ONE SPECIFIC MAN OUT THERE.

Malay sitcoms.
Come on, grow up! Spend extra! Get really creative people to advice on which joke is funny and which is not. And please tell that group of people - who recently had one of the group members arrested for drugging – that they are not funny at all.

Copy cats.
What’s with the reality shows??
Cosby had his talk of the town kids’ show and now everybody wants to interview kids??

The world needs more creative and humble people to make it more livable.
Braggers should be jailed.
Lucky I can switch off the TV when I heard those irritating voices.

gastronomy 101

Last night I ate Japanese Soba for dinner. Brilliant combination of texture. (last time I talked about I had enough of it... mm...)

Last week I bought the newly-introduced ice blended thing from a posh coffee shop nearby my office. Nope, I can't tell you which chain or else you will know it is Starbucks. It costs me a fortune. I didn't even know what it's name. The barista started with the standard greeting and continue with a typical new product introduction... "We have this new...".

"YES, I would like to try that", I don't know where it comes from. It just came out. I usually don't spend so much on brand. I can get ice blended coffee anywhere, but why on earth did I spent my money there, getting the same stuff which cost me three times more.

friendshit

I went through a very rough moment with "supposed-to-be-my-friends" during high school and I swear not to have any close female friend since. I've tried but it didn't work, maybe this swearing stuff is really working... But after that, I have one, well, at least I think I had one. He is from Malacca. He always be at the right place, at the right time and says the right words. But nowadays, no more.

I don't believe in being too close with a bunch of people but in the same time, trashing each other over small stuff behind them. It happened around me and I am trying hard to understand why they choose to be with that circle of friends at the first place? No choice? - TETT! Lame excuse. Try again.

Please be honest with everybody.

humour

I have a very high joke-tolerance. (Spells, I don't laugh over stupid jokes-NEVER-mark my word). I am easily disturbed by "supposed-to-be-funny-but-NOT" joke. I don't get it. Why people even laugh?

I love humour. I have a very good sense of humour. I got it from my parent. That's why they dont have any nowadays.

gastronomy

There should be no flavour for nata de coco except for lychee flavour. The rest are too over-whelming.

I don’t eat most of the green vege. I already stereotyped them as grass since I was in Standard Three.

Super Ring is my family’s must-have snack during our long journey. We enjoy the yellow-coloured teeth afterward.

I really love the combination of the simple es soda gembira and pecel lele.. Javanese are very excellent when it comes to flavour.

I love food from all over the world – Japanese, Chinese, Middle East, Italian, etc. You name it. I am very flexible when it comes to gastronomy as long as it is halal.

Typing this makes me hungry. Am definitely will get sushi on my way home.

humble

I was born humble. I am no bragger or boaster. I have friends from all walks of life. And I don’t like being bossy although I owned a company and I have many staff under my supervision. I’ve met bossy individuals and those who really like to live in luxury. *booo for them. What these attention-seekers really need is a piece of humble pie. It was like showing starving people a plate full of fine food but they can’t have any. I truly don’t understand why certain people behave that way. I know there is a reason for that, but why such reason is created? Why are we so magnanimous towards them?

bundle

I am surrounded with friends who prefer to shop at posh complexes/boutiques. They wear branded clothing, never missed out any sale and they love to hang out there during weekends. I have nothing against them. They have the money, then, by all means, please spend it and contribute to our country’s economic growth. I do that occasionally. I have a RM600-worth handbag (yeah, cheap). I don’t feel guilty.

I like spending time looking at each cloth hangs in bundle stall/shop. They have a lot of fashionable wear for ladies. Last week I bought 3pcs of tops, 3 pants and a denim skirt and it only costs me RM20. Yes, RM20. And the owner gave me a top and a pair of pant, free of charge. Whereas, the same pattern for the top in a posh complex will cost around RM59.90 and above. Notice the .90 at the back? They really like to use that…

There is nothing wrong about buying bundle clothing. It didn’t affect your ‘class’ (mmm… are you sure you have any?). People just have to know the story and sources of these clothes. Ask around. Ask the owner. Some of them did not sell only used clothes. They sell factory over production or cancelled order. That’s why they manage to sell it at a very low price. Not all bundle clothing is a used / second hand cloth (if that worries you at night). But, I personally think that there is nothing wrong buying used clothes. I believe in recycle since I was born.

It was just a piece of cloth… to properly cover your aurah. It didn’t make you less pretty wearing cheap clothing.

make up

Well, just because you did not wear any, don’t complaint too much on what other people is doing. I bought those with my own money. but, I can lend you my eye shadow if you want :o)

blog 101

I dont believe in blog. Just because I am not interested to read one. People would post their lengthy thoughts and opinions on any issues or just to share their 'on-my-God-I-have-to-tell-the-whole-world-this' experience. I dont care what they put in their blog and I wish for the same for my toilful.

My friend started one and I made myslef obligated to visit it everyday just to increase his hit *he made me do that* and brighthens his chance to get advertisements in his blog. I think he never heard about AdSense before. So, let me keep it for myself :o)

Am going to publish my autobiography and you can take a peek on its content in my toilful.

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TOIL

Pronunciation : \ˈtȯi(-ə)l\

Function : noun

Etymology : Middle English toile, from Anglo-French toyl, from toiller

Date : 14th century

TOIL

1 archaic a: struggle, battle b: laborious effort
2 long strenuous fatiguing labor

— toil·ful \-fəl\ adjective

— toil·ful·ly \-fə-lē\ adverb